Kathmandu. Many young women experience silence and shame around masturbation. One 25-year-old recalls, “In school, boys would openly talk about masturbation, but girls? We had no freedom to discuss it. If a boy asked most of us, our answer would be, ‘I haven’t done it; it’s obscene.’ Even those who masturbate often respond the same way.”
In contrast, boys rarely hide such behavior. “Why hide it? I masturbate,” many will say confidently. These responses highlight a social belief that women are less sexual, giving men a perceived advantage in sexual awareness.
Is It Harmful?
Young women often feel embarrassed to admit masturbation, unlike men. The writer recalls her adolescence: none of her female friends masturbated, and she herself refrained, thinking it was obscene and could harm her genitals. Even at age 20, she could not practice it freely, and it took years before she experienced her first sexual pleasure.
Masturbation is often misunderstood. Many people do not learn about their own genital anatomy, and sexual education may focus only on reproduction without discussing pleasure. Pornography provides sexual stimulation, but understanding how one’s body experiences pleasure is essential.
Learning and Sexual Awareness
When open conversations about masturbation began, the author realized most peers had not masturbated during adolescence due to shame and social stigma. Sexual activity was often viewed as disgusting or wrong.
Her mother explained masturbation at age 15, emphasizing it was normal and natural. She taught that masturbation helps understand sexual pleasure, which is beneficial before marriage for future sexual satisfaction. Initially, the writer felt uncomfortable discussing it with her mother but later appreciated the guidance.
Breaking the Silence
There is silence around female masturbation, perpetuating myths that women are not sexual. This is false. Women experience sexual desire just like men and can enjoy sexual pleasure alone or with partners. Personal sexual exploration builds confidence, helps women understand their preferences, and enhances their sexual relationships.
Health Benefits
Masturbation is safe and natural, does not harm others, and provides multiple health benefits:
- Better Sleep: Sexual release can improve sleep quality.
- Stress Relief: It helps reduce tension and promotes relaxation.
- Sexual Confidence: Understanding personal sexual response strengthens intimate relationships.
Everyone’s sexual desire is unique, and masturbation is a simple, safe, and private way to explore one’s body and enjoy pleasure. It empowers women to embrace their sexual health and self-awareness.
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